Insight is Only the Doorway

By adk2009 on Tue, 11-08-11, 11:11

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A message from our top-notch therapist Denee Jordan PsyD;

Whether or not you are aware of it, you are changing; right this minute! Human beings are always changing! Our brains house all of our feelings, ideas, fears, behaviors, and habits. Our brains are constantly adapting, learning, and regenerating. It really isn't possible to not learn and change. This might be a surprise to you; especially if you have been trying to change and think nothing is happening....The question is, are you changing mindfully....consciously and with awareness? People often say, “It is so hard to change my life, maybe I can’t do it”. The reason it is so hard to change certain emotions and behaviors is because we have spent years ‘programming’ our brains to respond certain ways. Even though we are often not aware of it, every time we think, act, or feel a certain way, we are reinforcing the pattern in our brain. Think of it like a path in a field. First we can hardly get through because of the weeds and grass. If we keep walking on the same path, eventually we wear it in. Pretty soon we are walking on a path that is smooth and well-worn, without noticing we are creating it. Eventually there will be rut. If you stop walking on the path, eventually the dirt will fill in and the weeds will grow over it. You can see that many years of ‘practicing’ certain ways of behaving, thinking and feeling cannot be undone without consistent attention. It is not a matter of willpower and you will not do a perfect job. It is a matter of consistent practice. Just like learning to play the piano. Just because you have a piano and understand the mechanics of playing doesn't mean you will be able to play. Practice makes progress....Sometimes this requires help from other people and serious lifestyle changes. This is the reason that residential treatment is sometimes necessary for serious disorders. Humans are the only living creatures that can think about the way they are thinking and behaving. Your body and mind want to be healthy. A little change goes a long way. If you need help with a plan and support with follow through then seek it out...All great athletes, artists, and scholars had teachers and mentors. We human beings are truly remarkable. If you are alive, you are capable of success!

Denee Jordan PsyD can help you get on a path to healing and happiness, if you would like to speak with her one-on-one, you can do so here: http://bit.ly/n7hk2U

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By dare on Tue, 11-08-11, 11:29

I have learnt it is good to surround myself with those I most want to be simular to. This helps me change the path I walk on when not so good to be upon
example I surround myself with
strong and healthy marraiges - I have acquired (later in life but acquired all the same).
honest, kind people with healthy boundaries - I have friends that are awesome and teach me endlessly and one day I will too obtain healthy boundaries for me.

I like the road and the weeds and how they get tramped down as we walk. I am now seeding healthy seeds and organic fertilizors LOL all the crap taken has to do some good, might as well spread it under foot t,han wear it from above.LOL It's all crap in the end and when it is worked in proper and right it grows can benifit too.
dare

I learnt:Life is what we make it , I can either embrace it whole heartedly or choose to let it to continuely weigh me down. New motto: unload when safe , dump completely others and punch holes where i can to let the rest seep out.

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By rascal1 on Tue, 11-08-11, 13:59

Well explained and very easily understood. Thanks!

Sending hugs and prayers your way for strength.

Diffuse Large B Cell Lymphoma Stage 3A
Finally finished treatment 6/13/11 and in remission!!!
Gotta love it,

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By TennisPlayer on Tue, 11-08-11, 18:22

Niiiiice example of wearing the path that makes things feel "easy" but if ignored the weeds pop up! I like that visual....Thanks!

"Each day make choices that your future self will be happy you did!"
"Choose long-term freedom over immediate comfort" Mindfulness Through Anxiety is a great book! www.MeditationOasis.com. If you would like me to pray for you,just pm me.

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By elegantlinda on Tue, 11-08-11, 18:29

My new path also includes a safe and peaceful home where there is no one playing mind games or hurling insults at me. My goal is to get divorced and move on and day by day my path is being shown to me a bit here and a bit there by God.

Yet I never want to forget how I have felt these past weeks and months since everything hit the fan for me. I want to encourage and support those who are facing the same or similar challenges that I'm facing. They say it takes a village to raise a child but I also think it takes a village to get a person thru a divorce.

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By MamaKiki on Wed, 11-23-11, 08:43

I love the visual with the path. This post made me wish we had a "like" button, like on facebook. lol. The path I am trying to change is my lip picking, and this post made me feel like I CAN do it.

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By Miss Imobility on Mon, 11-28-11, 14:40

I love surrounding myself with people I aspire to be like too. Show me the good
path! The family and friends I've walked the path with in my youth, unfortunately, have broken the Jail Bate Laws, and picked up a serious Anti-social Personality Disorder (Bullying PD) in where they seek to destroy the object of their Envy. Any time I broke away from their suppression, and succeed their Personality Disorders, marked by Low Impulse Control, would be provoked.
That's why I'm in the Chronic Pain Support Group.
When I got up to 3,000 a month at my job, my back got injured. My career was over. Same thing happened to my friend when he made 3K a month, he had a serious accident at work. Bullies kill by their will, as we've seen in the high schools. They succeeded in Killing our chance for a nice life. We never did anything to hurt them, ASPD is a Serious Personality Disorder, plagueing our Country. We need to enforce the jail bate laws. My vote 6 months in JUVY for sex before 18 yrs old. Then we can share the path with family and friends with out provoking their murderous ENVY.

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By Jeanna on Mon, 11-28-11, 16:40

Thank you!!!!!!

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By wayneseitz on Tue, 11-29-11, 07:25

THANK YOU.WoW gives me something to think about today..

{Keeping the Faith}

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By stanisz on Sun, 12-04-11, 04:49

thank you this encouraging post, i am looking forward to talking to you online soonest. all my best.

...love and prayers and may the Lord Bless us All!

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By SeanPatrick on Sun, 12-04-11, 18:43

i finaly got that today and saw it. despite im in assbackwards land now. learning all the time. thank you

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