ENRAGED--need to vent

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It seems I can get enraged but something different every week or few days. Its always a caused by a certain person or persons or a situation. I'm also pregnant now which makes everything 100x worse. The biggest thing that irks me now is my fiance's ridiculous parents. They are probably the laziest people i ever met. His dad has not worked for 7 years..hes 60 now which means he stopped working at 57 while is wife went to work and brought home the bacon until she just recently retired. He has no income, no pension, 401k or anything. He supposedly looked for a job for a few months and then gave up and didnt want to work anywhere "demeaning" They live off her retirement check and their 2 kids! (30yo and 22yo) I can completely understand paying rent esp at those ages but my fiance has been giving them money since he was 15 or 16, whenever he started working. He never got his permit or license. You would think parents would push their kids to get this at the appropriate age but no, I had to get on his case to get it. His mother didnt seem to happy about it. His parents guilt trip him using the fact that they raised him, bought his cleets, took him to practice, bought him toys, etc against him like he owes them for that. His mother will also use her fear of being on the streets to guilt him into giving more money. I thought this would stop after he told them i was pregnant and that he had to save(we are moving out in a few months) but it only got worse.. probably because he got another job he's working like over 95 hours a week which means more money. Ugh their laziness truely gets under my skin and them making him feel like he has to support them is ridiculous. His told his mom hey listen i can give you this amount like we agreed on because i have a baby coming thats all i can do and she basically responded by saying something to the tune of he should of thought about his obligation to them before he decided to have a baby. His dad cant get up off his lazy perfectly capable ass and get a job. They sleep til like 10am sometimes 11. The mom does nothing all day but sit play computer games and smoke.The dad is usually upstairs doing lord knows what watching movies and on the computer i presume. If they think im gonna have my baby over there crawlin around on their dirty floor (the mom shaves her legs in the living room like just the razor) and everything is dusty. The dad does the "cleaning" ahhhhhhhhhh just talking about them makes my blood boil. and my fiance is like so attached to them to top it all off...

any suggestions on how to appease this situation? or my ridiculous rage towards them?

 
By kema611 on Sun, 02-19-12, 20:58

wow im sorry i didnt proof read so many errors. His father stopped working at 53* i meant.

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By nelly13 on Wed, 03-21-12, 20:33

I have a kind of similar problem. I have always had anger issues but once I got pregnant it got so much worse. My fiances parents don't really bug me, its my fiance who I cant stand. Which sounds horrible, it was never like this before. But I think especially once you become pregnant and decide to bring a child into this world the child and mother of the child should become number one priority, not his parents. He needs to realize that he has no obligation to them. Maybe once your baby is born he will realize it more once he sees that he wants to give his child these things (buy cleats, take him to practice, etc) and does not feel obligated to do so. I think you should probably just sit down with your fiance and have a serious to the point conversation and tell him: hey your parents are grown ups they need to act like it, you need to support YOUR family now. I hope all goes well and you can get things resolved. Keep me posted and good luck!

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